I asked myself this question, “why do people hardened their hearts?” It’s because they cannot let go of the negative things that happen to them in the past and brought them in their present. And there’s a lot of bitterness inside their hearts.
I also, once hardened my heart before I became a disciple. But God gave situations in my life that helped me soften my heart and come to Him.
Why do you think God hardened the hearts of the people?
At first, I find this question quite difficult to accept. Bec I know and believed that I don’t have the right to ask God why He do certain things. I reminded of my struggle with my brother. My brother’s heart was so hardened to the point that he don’t communicate with us anymore. Even though he is my only brother and even though both of us are working here in Singapore. It’s sad and discouraging to know that there’s a huge gap between us. I don’t even know why he became like that. I don’t even know what happen to him. I don’t know why he don’t communicate with us anymore and why he is making himself far away from us. All these questions keeps running in my head. Sometimes, I indulge into self pity asking myself, have I done something to make my brother like that? That I am not a good sister towards him…
It makes me think, it was my brother’s choice and decision to harden his heart towards us. Then I asked myself, could it be that God has already hardening the heart of my brother? It reveals my heart, how I am not fully surrendered to God, how I doubt in His power and wisdom. How I doubt in His love for me and my brother.
My brother might be in a process of God’s mighty hand…. Then, it came to my realization that God is not only teaching my brother in his life right now, but God is also teaching me, to TRUST in Him. And God CHOOSE PEOPLE ACCORDING TO HIS PURPOSE NOT BECAUSE OF HOW GOOD OR HOW BAD THEY ARE. The scripture below really convicted me and it really hit me big time:
Being descendants of Abraham doesn’t make them truly Abraham’s children. For the Scriptures say, “Isaac is the son through whom your descendants will be counted,” though Abraham had other children, too. This means that Abraham’s physical descendants are not necessarily children of God. Only the children of the promise are considered to be Abraham’s children. For God had promised, “I will return about this time next year, and Sarah will have a son.” This son was our ancestor Isaac. When he married Rebekah, she gave birth to twins. But before they were born, before they had done anything good or bad, she received a message from God. (This message shows that God chooses people according to his own purposes; he calls people, but not according to their good or bad works.) She was told, “Your older son will serve your younger son.” In the words of the Scriptures, “I loved Jacob, but I rejected Esau.” Are we saying, then, that God was unfair? Of course not! For God said to Moses, “I will show mercy to anyone I choose, and I will show compassion to anyone I choose.” So it is God who decides to show mercy. We can neither choose it nor work for it. For the Scriptures say that God told Pharaoh, “I have appointed you for the very purpose of displaying my power in you and to spread my fame throughout the earth.” So you see, God chooses to show mercy to some, and he chooses to harden the hearts of others so they refuse to listen. Well then, you might say, “Why does God blame people for not responding? Haven’t they simply done what he makes them do?” No, don’t say that. Who are you, a mere human being, to argue with God? Should the thing that was created say to the one who created it, “Why have you made me like this?” When a potter makes jars out of clay, doesn’t he have a right to use the same lump of clay to make one jar for decoration and another to throw garbage into? In the same way, even though God has the right to show his anger and his power, he is very patient with those on whom his anger falls, who are destined for destruction. He does this to make the riches of his glory shine even brighter on those to whom he shows mercy, who were prepared in advance for glory. (Romans 9:7-23 NLT)